Hi, Tahlia!!

I heard you’re turning 13 soon & wow does time fly!

I honestly don’t remember much about being 13 specifically but I do remember Grade 7. I had a huge crush on a boy, who skateboarded and stayed after school several days a week to get extra help in French. I had a best friend named Yolanda, who is still one of my closest friends to this date, even though we went to different schools shortly after. I remember feeling very strong and independent and at many times, feeling like I could do anything in the world. I played the cello and even started my first business selling stress balls.

I don’t know what 13 is like or will be like for you especially since we live in different places with different cultures. Your mom asked me to give you some advice or thoughts on what to expect as a teenager, and there are a few that come to mind.

1. Grey.

Right now the world may seem black and white. People who do drugs, or smoke are “bad people” and you might think you’ll never get into that crowd but as you become older you’ll discover the world is not as divided. Your friends, people you love or even yourself may start doing “bad things” but that doesn’t make them bad people. You will make your own choices and not all of them will be good, but I urge you to think about the consequences of your actions and know when it’s time to own up to them

2. Guard your heart.

When you become older or even now there are lots of people who will rush into relationships. It’s not as simple as liking one another, and I don’t want to scare you by talking about marriage because it seems so far away but know that it’s easy to get hurt or hurt the other person, so think about it before you start something serious

3. Lastly, discover your values/beliefs.

Do you believe lying is okay? How about white lies? What do you think will happen after you die? Is it okay to hurt someone if they’ve hurt you? Will you help other people in need? Will you compromise your values for money? Is there something more to this life? These are questions that you should explore for yourself. It is important to have values and integrity. For example, if your friend told you a secret and asked you not to tell anyone, would you tell your best friend? It seems harmless but keeps in mind your friend trusted you with her secret and if you tell (whether or not she finds out) you have destroyed that trust. It’s not easy doing the right thing, but it is important that you do so.

There are so many more things I’d like to tell you. For one, you’re beautiful and even though society will tell you otherwise (that your nose is too big or small, that you’re too skinny or fat). You will never be good enough for the world/please everyone you meet so stay true to yourself and know that being “pretty” is not the most important thing.

One day you’re 12 and the next you’re 13! Although there seems to be no significant change, it’s the little things in life that’ll shape and mold you.

Although we’ve only met twice (I think), I want you to know that I care about you and if you need anything feel free to message me!

Happy Birthday!!

Love,Your Aunt

Your Aunt

Kimberly